Now let's finish our southern tradition countdown!
Ten Southern Traditions We Need to Keep Alive:
6. Writing thank-you notes: I touched on this earlier this year. You can read the post here. It's polite, it's proper, and it's mandatory. Enough said.
7. Knowing the basics of homemaking: If you have been a reader of mine for a while now, you'll know that I quit my career as a 5th grade teacher to stay home. (No, I do not have children. I think my husband alone is worth me taking care of myself and our home.) When I first became a homemaker I set out to learn the basics- sewing, knitting, baking, canning etc. Our grandmothers knew these crafts because they had to know them. Making do was needed to survive and save money. Thankfully we are now blessed with abundance. But that does not mean we should let these precious arts go by the wayside. My great-grandma did these to make do, and I'm doing them to make a home a home.
8. Slowing down: Oh, this is such a biggie. And I constantly have to remind myself of this. The busyness of life has seeped into our southern culture and we are now in the proverbial 'rat race.' We no longer sit on our porches with a glass of sweet tea, waving at anyone who walks by- we don't have the time. In between work, and the gym, and PTA meetings, the kid's ballet, soccer, and football practices, and squeezing dinner in there somewhere, we've lost the art of slowing down.
On our honeymoon in St. Lucia, Southern Hubby and I enjoyed sumptuous feasts each night at our resort's restaurant. The food was divine. But we were a bit thrown off by the fact that we had to wait at least an hour and half (sometimes more!) for the food to arrive. It was like they took our order and then went to take a nap before they turned it in to the chef! After a couple nights of this, we were starting to get miffed! But looking around at the European guests, we noticed they weren't irritated at all- they had glass after glass of wine, all the while indulging in stories of that day's adventures. They were savoring their dining experience. It didn't matter when the food got there- they had family and friends to talk to for the meantime and that was just fine.
In our go-go-go! world, Southern Hubby and I were used to being seated, having appetizers, dinner and maybe a desert in under an hour. (maybe a little more if you had to pay the check ;) What we thought was horrible service was actually the Saint Lucian norm- enjoying your company, savoring your meal, and visiting long after the plates are gone.
That night, we walked away full stomachs and a wonderful lesson.
9. Pearls, pearls and more pearls!- I know y'all are all with me on this one! 10. Southern Hospitality: We in the south delight in entertaining! We live for parties and welcoming people into our homes.
Be not forgetful to entertain strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
- Hebrews 13:2
We Southerners take this very seriously- our home is your home. We must remember, though, that being a good hostess has nothing to do with the quality of your silver and china, or even what you serve at your table- it's more about graciousness of your giving and making special memories. Conversation is a verra close second.
(Did y'all read, "Devil in the Junior League"? Based in Texas, the main character, Frede, has our typical Texan drawl and it is a hoot! "Well, bless your heart," and "verra, verras" are sprinkled throughout the story!)
Happy Hump day to my lovely readers!
xoxo Y





21 sweetie poos said...:
May I also include on your list - taking dinner, dessert, or both to those who have just come home from the hospital or during times of bereavement. Most do not think to do this and I think it helps tremendously!
Great posts!
--KY Reader
On # 6: I am always appalled when I don't receive a thank you note, even a quick jot. I was taught that this is a must and I've kept true! In addition, every Christmas card I write has a personal note. I don't like that form letter than most write these days and send to everyone.
# 7: I am a working "mommywife" as I call it. I am learning to sew and though I can't can as I have a cooktop, I do make my own soup and ALWAYS cook fresh veggies, I don't like frozen or canned. Though I live in suburban Florida, I specifically bought a large lot so I can grow my own garden. We just moved, so we'll be working on it this fall!
#8 Unfortunately, we just now realized this one. Now that our daughter is two, we've taken a cue and are doing just that!
You are so right on all of these! I love this post!
Your southern tradition lists are right on!
I, too, have been finding myself enjoying wearing dresses more...there is something so feminine and ladylike about it! And of course, pearls too!
I was raised to write a thank you note for just about everything and don't understand those who don't write notes. Writing thank you notes (and our grandmother's instilling that tradition in us), was a huge inspiration for our stationery! We think it is so important these days.
Thanks!
Brittany
C&P Stationery
I have agreed w/ everything you've touched on thus far. I think my biggest one is #6 though. I get angry when something doesn't write me a thank-you note. For anyone out there...an e-mail is NO way to thank someone!!!
Ah, #6...I've still got addresses to find to finish my wedding thank yous...guess this is the rgiht push at the right time--thanks!
Being a southern girl trapped in the midwest, I am so glad you wrote out these traditions! My husband looks at me funny when I talk about my pearls and he doesn't understand why I feel the need to throw a party for aboslutely no occasion.
I am right on board with you when it comes to thank-you notes- I rarely get them anymore but I always send them out, even if it's just for something small. Everyone loves to be thanked in a gracious, hand-written way.
Unfortunately, I am not a housewife (yet) but I still learned to make a house a home and I'm so grateful for that! My husband is happy, I'm happy, and our home is happy!
My husband and I went to St. Lucia for our honeymoon as well! Such a beautiful island. We really enjoyed the long wait for dinner, it gave us a chance to savor the moment, slow things down, and look out over the ocean. We just made sure to make our reservations a little earlier so we weren't ravished by the time the food arrived!
I've really enjoyed reading about the traditions, it just reminds me how much I miss home and how I hope to move back some day soon!
I agree with slowing down. We are all in such a rush these days that we forget to slow down and enjoy the things around us. I definitely need to work on that one!
Hi, I just found your blog from someone else's blog....you know how that goes....and I love it! I am SO with you on thank-you cards! I'm not the model for that, I realize, but just the other night I was listening to my Yankee-by-birth BIL and his wife talk about how they couldn't believe people got upset when they didn't get all their thank you cards out when they got married back in the day. What?! You ESPECIALLY send a thank-you for a wedding gift!!
Anyway, I'm now a follower. You've got me hooked!
I always send thankyou notes for everything but I have never received one in my life. I should get more polite friends :)
I am going to try to slow down and go to a restaurant and make all the kids savour the moment instead of scoffing it down and running out the door. (What are they running to anyway? The TV?)
I am trying out some of your other points too but I am finding it incredibly hard to find white gloves anywhere! And the sales assistants are looking at me like I'm nuts when I ask for them. Or is that because I keep saying y'all in every sentence? :)
Fabulous post, indeed! :)
You are spot on SH! I have lived in the South all of my born days and everything you mentioned is a big part of the South, but us slowly leaving us. It's so sad! I love dreaming that my big city of Atlanta is how it was back in Scarlett's days. I know it will never be that way again, but a girl can dream and can keep up and teach our children what being in the South is like. My stepchildren can't help they have lived their whole lives in Phoenix. When they moved here I instilled most of these 10 items in their brains and hearts, especially thank you notes. So, please keep your posts on the South up and maybe you can encourage those that are here and all over the world to be gracious. Just don't give away all our secrets ;0).
I love this series! I second the "homemaking" skills - I had to sew on a button for a girl older than me at work. A BUTTON!
I have been trying to find a post (I really hope it was your blog I saw it on, and I feel bad if it wasn't) about a homemaker naturalist/I think vegetarian/with dreadlocks? My SIL would love the blog, and I remember reading it after you posted it (at least I think it was you who posted it). Do you have any idea what I'm talking about? Could you please give me the link if you do? Thanks! :)
Love your list and could not agree with you more. Great blog!
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You couldn't be more right about number 8!!
I come from a hustle-bustle world....now we are here.
S-lllloowwed waaaayyy down.
I'm learning how to adapt.
It's different though. I'm starting to enjoy it much more :)
Even at my work. Clients will be waiting and the doctors will stop and talk about something that just came to mind...I'm all "We don't have time for this!"
I'm learning..
Thank you. Very nice post. Brings you back to hospitality alright :)
Could not agree more. Doesn't it just irk you if someone emails a thank you? I almost go through the roof! Also Thank yous must be done in a timely manner! I am from Raleigh so of course I was raised right and know better!!! Hard being in LA where NO ONE GETS IT!
I have agreed everything you've touched on thus far. I think my biggest one is #6 though. I get angry when something doesn't write me a thank-you note.
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I just had to stop and say that I found your blog recently and am completely in love with it! It only makes me wish I was a Southern girl!! Keep up the fantastic blogging- especially the stuff on Southern traditions and the art of keeping a home :)
agreed on all of them! I get so irritated when i don't get a thank you! I mean really bummed. Why did I even go to trouble then to get you something so precious? It makes you feel as though they don;t like it. anyway, great post. It is nice to hear others feel the same way. I love being a SAHM. Canning may be in my future...
I agree! Thank you notes are a must. I'm a housewife with no children, and I love finding other women like me. Thanks for sharing.
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